As a clinical psychologist with a deep commitment to neurodiversity advocacy, I’d like to address a common but problematic phrase: "Everyone’s a bit autistic."

While it may be said with good intentions—perhaps as an attempt to empathise—this statement is not only inaccurate but also diminishes the unique experiences of autistic individuals. Let me explain why this perspective is both unhelpful and potentially harmful.

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Autism Is a Distinct Neurodevelopmental Condition

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is not a set of random personality traits or quirks that everyone possesses to some extent; it is a unique neurotype that shapes how individuals perceive and interact with the world. It is a neurodevelopmental condition with specific diagnostic criteria defined by challenges in social communication, sensory processing, and repetitive behaviours. These features significantly impact the lives of autistic individuals in ways that are not experienced by others in population.

When people suggest that "everyone’s a bit autistic," they trivialise the profound and often complex realities of living with autism. It is akin to saying, "Everyone’s a bit diabetic" because they occasionally feel thirsty. Such statements oversimplify a nuanced condition, undermining its significance.

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Why This Phrase Is Harmful

Firstly, this statement minimises the genuine struggles that autistic people face. Autism is not merely about a preference for routines or occasional social awkwardness. It can involve intense sensory sensitivities, difficulties in understanding social cues, and differences in emotional regulation.

Secondly, it contributes to the erasure of autistic identities. Autistic individuals often face systemic barriers and a lack of understanding from society. By suggesting that autism is something everyone experiences, we dilute the validity of their lived experiences and make it more challenging for their unique needs to be recognised and addressed.

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Autism Is a Spectrum, But Not Everyone Is on It

The concept of autism as a spectrum reflects the wide variety of ways it manifests. However, this does not mean that everyone is "on the spectrum" to some degree. The spectrum encompasses diverse presentations of autism, from individuals requiring significant support to those who are more independent. It is not a scale that includes every person.

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What You Can Say Instead

If your intention is to connect or express empathy, consider framing your thoughts in ways that respect and validate the experiences of autistic individuals. For example:

• "I’m trying to learn more about autism and its unique impact on individuals."
• "I recognise that some of your experiences are different from mine, but I’m interested in understanding them better."
• "Autism brings unique strengths and challenges, and I value the perspective it offers."

These alternatives show a willingness to learn and engage without diminishing the distinctiveness of autism.

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The Importance of Precision in Language

Language shapes our understanding and interactions. While "Everyone’s a bit autistic" may seem innocuous, it perpetuates misunderstandings and can unintentionally harm those who are genuinely autistic. Instead, let us foster a culture of respect and inclusivity by recognising autism for what it is: a unique way of experiencing the world that deserves both understanding and support.

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About the Author

Dr Diana Goldsmith is a clinical psychologist specialising in neurodiversity and mental health advocacy. She is dedicated to supporting autistic individuals and their families by promoting greater awareness and respect for their unique experiences.